Assertiveness means standing up for yourself in a non aggressive way. Assertiveness means being able to make overtures to other people, to stand up for oneself in a non aggressive way, to speak up when others make demands, and to make suggestions or requests to others in a group.
The real first step toward assertiveness is self-confidence. It is also necessary to develop basic communication skills. Whenever a suggestion of yours or a bid for action is met with failure, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and generate alternative responses.
Drawing the line between aggressiveness and assertiveness is always a difficult proposition. When you must take a stand, you may second-guess yourself: “Will I step over the line? If I do nothing, will I lose ground?”
Everyone admires assertive over aggressive people. Power is a constant player in interpersonal relationships. And the path to power is not dominance over others but the ability to speak up for oneself. The key distinction is the difference between aggression and assertion.
Assertiveness often requires overcoming psychological traits such as extreme passivity, sensitivity to criticism, anxiety, insecurity and low self-esteem.
You can trust someone who is assertive. Not so much with an aggressor. There are exceptions to this rule of course.
IRIANS – The Neuroscience Institute