Predominantly people are not nicely divided into two types. Introversion-extroversion is a dimension of two extremes; from very high to very low. It is somewhat like that of the height of a person: people are not either tall or short: some are, but most are not. So most of us are ambiverts, that is we are somewhere in the middle. Not strongly the one or the other. We can look at others both more introverted and more extroverted, depending on our situation. But it is easier talking about one type or the other and people readily and happily put themselves on one side of the line.
It is popularly believed that extroverts are seen as more likeable, interesting and popular; whereas introverts are seen as more honest, stable and reliable.
Following are seven things extroverts should know about their introverted friends and vice versa:
- They don’t need alone time because they don’t like you. They need alone time because they need alone time. Don’t take it personally or get offended.
- They aren’t judging anybody when they sit quietly. They are just sitting quietly, probably enjoying watching extroverts in action.
- If they say they’re having fun, they’re having fun, even though it might not look that way to you.
- If they leave early, it’s not because they’re party poopers. Socializing tends to take a lot out of them.
- If you want to hear what they have to say, give them time. They don’t fight to be heard over other people. They just clam up
- They are not lonely, they’re choosy. And very loyal to friends who don’t try to convert them into extroverts.
- Anything but the telephone.
Seven things introverts should know about their extroverted friends:
- Extroverts don’t understand introversion unless someone explains it.
- Extroverts who try to get you to loosen up usually aren’t doing it to annoy you. They mean well.
- Extroverts produce a lot of words but quantity does not preclude quality. There’s often plenty of good stuff in there for those with the patience to listen.
- Extroverts can teach us plenty about glad-handing and small talking. These are useful skills, whether or not you enjoy them.
- Extroverts can’t read your mind and they’re not big on catching hints. Say what you want.
- At parties, think of extroverted friends as a glider tow plane. They pull you in and get you started, but eventually you have to sail on your own.
- Extroverts come in all different styles, just like introverts. Keep a lookout for extroverts with a quiet side, who make dandy friends.
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IRIANS – The Neuroscience Institute