OOPS! THAT´S AWKWARD

We all have awkward moments of course. But awkwardness is a way of life for some people. Awkward people, because of they are tightly focus and often oblivious to cues, are at risk for overtalking. Ty Tashiro breaks this group of people further into 3 types: 1.) The Narcissists- they like the attention, they like…

TOXIC, POISONOUS PEOPLE

They spew negativity to demean and deflate you. And they think you’re the problem. It’s happening more and more. it grows from selfishness and callousness that can derive in extreme form from certain character disorders that don’t magically recede after hours and are particularly destructive in close interpersonal relationships. Toxic behavior is identifiable by its…

Inside the Consumer Mind

There is a basic misunderstanding about the forces that shape shopping behavior. Consumers believe that they act rationally to maximize their personal best interests when making purchase decisions. And marketers assume that consumer shopping decisions are based on rational evaluation of the features and attributes of the products they sell – aided, of course, by…

Scared of Happiness?

Some people are afraid to be happy.  It isn’t that they don’t want to be happy or that they enjoy being unhappy.  They have come to feel that being happy will come at a price or will be followed by calamity or at least ill fortune.  In some cases, this dynamic can reflect superstitious thinking. …

What Does Your Inner Self Tell You About Yourself?

I gave a toast at my best friend’s wedding last summer, a speech I carefully crafted and practiced delivering. And it went well: The bride and groom beamed; the guests paid attention and reacted in the right spots; a waiter gave me a thumbs-up. I was relieved and pleased with myself. Until months later—when I…

ARE NARCISSISTS NASTIER TO THEIR ROMANTIC PARTNERS?

Narcissists have problematic interpersonal relationships. They are less committed and more likely to manipulate their partners. Not surprisingly, their partners also tend to become increasingly dissatisfied over time. Gender plays a role in how narcissism manifests in relationships. Female narcissistic partners turn to be more aggressive when it comes to relationships. It is their narcissism which…

Why Learning New Things Often Seems Too Hard?

Something important tends to be missing from most articles about lifelong learning. Because they fail to identify—as do educators and trainers on the whole—the challenges presented by what psychologists call proactive interference. In other words, to successfully learn something new we first need to “unlearn” what we’ve previously been taught. For example, the reason I have…

JUDGEMENTAL KIDS!

Little kids are already judging you! Young children are surprisingly skilled at evaluating other people. Children as young as 3 can watch adults perform an arbitrary manual task and infer that it is being done the correct way, even without being told. Very young children also quickly become able to recognize dishonesty. Joshua Alvarez Riya…

THE THRILL OF INTIMACY

The term intimacy is often used as a euphemism for sex but it but anyone with a dear friend knows that physical attraction is not essential for any two people to create a true bond. Intimacy is what you share with another human being who truly “gets” you. Intimacy keeps open a channel for sharing the…

Should Sexual Predators Be Banned From Social Media?

North Carolina law currently makes it illegal for any registered sex offender to use social media. This week, the Supreme Court will hear arguments from one man who was convicted of having a Facebook account under a law he claims is a violation of the First Amendment. The state argues that sex offenders can use…

NOTHING IS FOR SURE, THAT’S FOR SURE.

As human beings, we really don’t know very much at all.  It is important to differentiate between what we know and what we believe. What we actually know is only what we experience, no more and no less. So we are left with nothing but the experience of the present moment, the certainty of now….

Are Refugees A Threat To Trump-America?

Here’s a sampling of things more likely to kill Americans than refugees, who have been responsible for exactly zero terrorism-related deaths in the United States in the 21st century: (1) second hand smoke (41,000 deaths annually); (2) alcohol-related car crashes (10,000 deaths annually); (3) gunshot (33,000 deaths annually); (4) husbands/male partners (1,600 deaths annually); (5)…

THE NEED FOR APPRECIATION

A couple of days, I attended a poetry reading and it is somewhat an unusual thing of me to do because, come on, who has time for such things? Sit on one place, listen to people read out or recite their own poems or perform something they have taken years to perfect? But unlike what…

Comfort food

After a long excruciating, tedious trip all anyone looks forward to, is a delicious meal made by their mother. It’s warm and familiar. It’s something we can just dive into because we know that it would be just perfect and comfortable. Food does more than just fuel one’s body. A pint of ice-cream is capable…

Why Narcissist are better than you…Wait, are they?

A central aspect of narcissism is grandiosity. That is, narcissists tend to think highly of themselves. In particular, they tend to have a positive view of themselves compared to other people. To be fair, almost everyone has a reasonably positive view of themselves. The “Lake Wobegon effect” is the observation that people generally think they are better at a variety of skills…

The Social Skill of Gossiping

Smugly looking down from the moral high ground – and secure in the knowledge that we don’t share their character flaw – we often dismiss those who are obsessed with the doings of others as shallow. Indeed, in its rawest form, gossip is a strategy used by individuals to further their own reputations and interests at the expense of…

I AM ALONE BUT NOT LONELY

I believe that it is about time people realize the stark difference between being alone, enjoying one’s solitude, and being lonely. Both these terms, ‘Solitude” and “Loneliness” are often used interchangeably, but the true meaning and feeling are far from being similar. From afar, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike. Both are characterized by…

Should we allow everyone to speak out their ideas without certain regulations?

There have been a lot of strong viewpoints swirling around during this election cycle and some bloggers, tweeters, and others contributing to the public conversation support their ideas with evidence and some don’t. This blog post is an effort to provide some measured and research-based guidance for educators struggling to create safe and affirming learning…

The Vomiting Theory of Education

Does anyone have any thoughts on the role of deception in business? I have this thing, I want to be honest in all my dealings. I do, however, practice deception fiercely when engaged in sports or strategy games. To me, this is perfectly okay because all participants share a context that ‘this is a game’ and…

Will Narcissism Provoke Your Future Divorce?

Most people enter into intimate relationships with the hope, if not the expectation, that both partners will prove faithful. Yet, we all know the world doesn’t always work that way, and that there are people who just can’t seem to keep from straying. If you’re the one whose partner has strayed, you may blame yourself…

TERRORISM ANXIETY FUELS NATIONALISM

Terror Management Theory (TMT) explains how and why event that conjure up thoughts about death cause people to cling more strongly to their worldviews- siding with those who share their national, ethnic or political identity, while aggressively opposing those who do not. Sharp increases in deadly terror attacks around the world serve to create a…

THE HARMLESS BULLET OF PSYCHOLOGY

Terrorism is a very complex thing, all formed by religion, batshit crazy guys, weapons everywhere, white guys wearing black clothes running around supermarkets with AK-47 which of course they know how to use because at the same time they also produce YouTube tutorials about very regular and useful techniques for the layman such as ‘How…

“Let’s prepare a terrorist Attack”

Although we know a great deal about the behaviour of traditional criminals, little information has been available about terrorists. Are they much different from conventional criminals, who tend to commit their crimes close to home? Research has shown that traditional criminals are spontaneous, but terrorists seem to go to great lengths preparing for their attacks…

Discover Your Purpose and Shine

Every individual has their calling and at some point in life or the other we tend to ask ourselves ‘what is our calling? What is the purpose of our life? What did we come to this world to do?’ Most ardent and contemplative souls resort to reading more and more about how they can find…

Could Psychopathic behaviours be avoided if love is provided correctly?

New research on psychopaths examines feelings of regret in adults and, earlier this year, targeted intervention for antisocial behavior in children was defined.  Additionally there was a publication in 2013 by a neuroscientist who highlighted the role of a supportive environment. Contrary to the belief that psychopaths are devoid of feelings, Yale News just highlighted the work…

“I say PRAISE ME!”

I can be certain when I say this: all of us, at some point, have come across a person who is constantly on a quest to seek attention (be it yours or someone else’s). This individual lies to your face, exaggerates situations and/or conversations, tries to manipulate things, asserts self-superiority, portrays themselves as either victimized…

For Posterior’s Sake?

Can a man’s personality be inferred based on his preference of certain parts of a woman’s body? Believe it or not, researchers have attempted to uncover the difference between “boob men” and “ass men.” According to a detailed study conducted in 1968, by Jerry S. Wiggins, Nancy Wiggins, and Judith Cohen Conger of the University…

What ISIS is really about? Origins and future.

The name ISIS is now known to everyone, the biggest threat to most country’s national security they are the new face of War on terror since Al-Qaeda. I will call them the new bogeyman of terrorism and the re-branded version of Al-Qaeda. ISIS according to Media and Politics is a very brutal savage group known for…

It’s not the same anymore

Going out and accomplishing something is probably one of the best feelings in the world. However, the worst part is losing somebody who was with you through the entire process. Time passes and friendships change, and it’s not always for the best. Sometimes, at some point in life, we find that a friend with whom…